How to Stay Spiritually Strong as a Mom when your Kids Don't
Having a child in trouble is the most difficult thing that a mother can go through, and it can be very difficult to be able to see through these dark times. However, as a mother your children depend on you to remain strong and to guide them regardless of the difficulties that both you and they are going through. In order to take the best possible care of your children you will need to draw upon your own inner strength.
Don’t Blame Yourself
When something goes wrong with your children the natural impulse is to blame yourself. While you can look honestly at your actions and see whether you may have contributed to the problem and whether there are some items you need to change you also need to recognize that everyone makes mistakes and no one is perfect. Very often there is simply nothing a mother can do to make sure that their child never goes astray and never falters. Children are their own people, and a responsible mother raises independent children that will sometimes make the wrong choices.
Consider Therapy
Professional help can help the entire family not just the afflicted member. While it’s a great idea to get your children into therapy when they’re experiencing difficulties it can also be important for a mother to go into therapy too. Cognitive behavioral therapy is one way to avoid negative thoughts and focus on the positive for more information click on the link. Therapy doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you, it simply means that you want some help to deal with difficult problems. A qualified therapist can give you the tools that you need to properly express yourself to your children and to deal with the changes they’re going through. Parents who are struggling with how to talk to their children can also benefit from training.
Don’t Focus On Failure
Everyone breaks down sometimes, but that doesn’t take away from the times that they have been strong. If you suffer from a setback or a bad mood, then let yourself feel those feelings for the moment. You don’t want to dwell, but you also don’t want to deny yourself the right to naturally express yourself and to naturally react to a bad situation. While you do have to be strong, this doesn’t mean you have to be stoic at all times. If you feel the need to cry at times, it’s your right to do so. It’s also your right to then wipe off your tears, hold your shoulders high, and continue to do the most important job in the world: be a mother.
Annabelle Smyth is from Milwaukee, Wisconsin and is married to the coolest husband ever. They are raising two angels right now but they are both super messy and a handful sometimes. She is a huge sports enthusiast and loves cheering for the badgers and the bucks! She can not tell you how excited she is that the bucks made the playoffs! In her free time she loves to write and read and watch a good movie. She and her husband currently live in Utah which makes it difficult to watch her favorite teams play.
